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**4x401** · August 31, 2011, 19:46

Well, my MIL has finally passed after decades of abusing her body. Smoking, poor diatary choices, and just an angry disposition toward life took their toll.

I`m sad for my wife because she has spent the last 4 years caring for her. It has been exteemely hard for her to watch the slow spiral to death. Depression is a killer. Couple that with a 4 pack a day cig habbit and Diabetis, its a wonder she made it to 75.

My wife is wreck.
A funeral is a hell of a way to start a holiday weekend.

Tuscan Raider · August 31, 2011, 20:39

Bummer. Give the wife a 4x401 hug from me.

PSL54Junkie · August 31, 2011, 22:43

Sorry to hear about the MIL hope things get better. Praying for peace for you and the family.

snowhawk jockey · September 01, 2011, 11:04

Sad to hear the loss of family. My condolences to your wife and my best wishes for you in your emotional support of her. The feeling of relief will soon overtake the feeling of loss as your wife recognizes that her mother is now free of the pain and suffering that ruled the last years of her existence.

The holiday does get changed, when it is accompanied by a funeral.

**brunop** · September 01, 2011, 13:02

Sorry about your wife's mother - it is a difficult thing no matter how 'ready' she is for the event.

God bless you and yours - you are in my prayers.

ALL FAL · September 09, 2011, 13:41

I pray that life will get so much better for you and the wife, as there is a bright side to all the recent grief, time will help heal, it always does.

**tdb59** · September 10, 2011, 16:54

4x-- I got no words, just lots of prayers.

Terry

**4x401** · September 11, 2011, 13:58

I appreciate the thoughts and prayers guys, thankyou.

Things are slowly returning to normal. The most prominent issue in my mind is I need to spend more time with my own mom. This event really brought home to me that she and I are both aging fast. Time is getting short, for all of us.

gaijinsamurai · September 11, 2011, 21:28

I wish your family the best, Rich.

I can relate to the subject, as I see my mom about once per year, and she'll turn 70 next year.

**4x401** · September 11, 2011, 21:51

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Originally posted by gaijinsamurai
I wish your family the best, Rich.

I can relate to the subject, as I see my mom about once per year, and she'll turn 70 next year.

Thanks Andy, I appreciate it.

WOW, once a year!

That is really tough.
The crappy thing is that we all tend to let "life" get in the way of our familys.

I`m guilty myself, and it has to change. I`m very fortunate that my mom lives about 2 miles away.

So, no more excuses. My wife is gone every Tuesday evening, I`m commiting that night for mom time.

**W.E.G.** · September 12, 2011, 06:17

Sorry for your family's loss and suffering.

Seems like more families are actually like what is described than the pablum we were fed through popular imagery.

gaijinsamurai · September 12, 2011, 07:32

Quote:

Originally posted by 4x401

Thanks Andy, I appreciate it.

WOW, once a year! That is really tough.
The crappy thing is that we all tend to let "life" get in the way of our familys.
I`m guilty myself, and it has to change. I`m very fortunate that my mom lives about 2 miles away.

So, no more excuses. My wife is gone every Tuesday evening, I`m commiting that night for mom time.

My mom lives in Guatemala, so it's not easy to see each other.

ALL FAL · September 13, 2011, 00:08

4X401, Hope things are getting better at home, I know what you mean about spending time with the folks, my Mom was in an head on collision in PDX, in the end of july, broke every bone except her spine, skull and right arm and almost lost her right foot, she may get to go home in another week, she is a registered nurse, so is helping in her healing, what a mess.

My Ol Dad blew his Brains out in 97, so I regret not spending more time with him.

Best wishes for you and yours, Dave.

**4x401** · September 13, 2011, 22:07

Quote:

Originally posted by W.E.G.
Sorry for your family's loss and suffering.

Seems like more families are actually like what is described than the pablum we were fed through popular imagery.

Thank you W.E.G.

I beleive every generation has dealt with its own brand of "Dysfunction" in one form or another. I see very distinct differences in my own girls attitudes about certian things. Some good, some bad. Bottom line is that they are good people and I`m proud of that.

**4x401** · September 13, 2011, 22:19

Quote:

Originally posted by gaijinsamurai

My mom lives in Guatemala, so it's not easy to see each other.

GUATEMALA!

Man thats got to be hard on you. The father of a close freind lives in Panama. He see`s him every year when he come up to Oregon for a couple weeks. He also wishes they lived closer to each other.

**4x401** · September 13, 2011, 22:35

Quote:

Originally posted by ALL FAL
4X401, Hope things are getting better at home, I know what you mean about spending time with the folks, my Mom was in an head on collision in PDX, in the end of july, broke every bone except her spine, skull and right arm and almost lost her right foot, she may get to go home in another week, she is a registered nurse, so is helping in her healing, what a mess.

My Ol Dad blew his Brains out in 97, so I regret not spending more time with him.

Best wishes for you and yours, Dave.

Thank you too Dave.

You mom sounds alot like mine, tough old birds from growing up in tough times. Its hard to believe she could suffer through all that and still be kicking, praise God.

Sorry you have had to live with your father leaving like that, I can`t imagine.

My father is still around, lives in New Mexico. He walked out on my mom, brother and I when I was 12. I`ve seen him about 6 times the last 38 years. He`s never made it a priority to communicate so I don`t either. I`d like that to change, but again, I have alot on my own plate. My mom has ALWAYS been there for me, and I aim to make sure she`s cared for. Dad on the other hand never sent a dime of support to help out, but was able to send his second wifes kid through college. Ka SaRa, SaRa.

jerrymrc · September 18, 2011, 21:38

Prayers will go out my friend.

**4x401** · September 19, 2011, 18:08

Quote:

Originally posted by jerrymrc
Prayers will go out my friend.

I appreciate that Jerry, thank you.

How are YOU doing these days?
Missed you at this years shoot. Hope your up to next years event.

dirtyrice · September 20, 2011, 00:35

Quote:

Originally posted by 4x401
Well, my MIL has finally passed after decades of abusing her body. Smoking, poor diatary choices, and just an angry disposition toward life took their toll.
I`m sad for my wife because she has spent the last 4 years caring for her. It has been exteemely hard for her to watch the slow spiral to death. Depression is a killer. Couple that with a 4 pack a day cig habbit and Diabetis, its a wonder she made it to 75.

My wife is wreck.
A funeral is a hell of a way to start a holiday weekend.

I'm sorry for your loss. And I understand the feelings that develop when you watch a loved one moving closer to the end yet they don't take steps to prevent it. My grandfather died of emphysema and smoked even once he was to the point he was on oxygen. I think they just get the idea in their heads that it doesnt matter once they are to a certain point and it is indeed sad to watch.

I wish you the best. Keep the wife close. I'm sure you need each other more than ever.

**4x401** · September 21, 2011, 00:09

Quote:

Originally posted by dirtyrice

I'm sorry for your loss. And I understand the feelings that develop when you watch a loved one moving closer to the end yet they don't take steps to prevent it. My grandfather died of emphysema and smoked even once he was to the point he was on oxygen. I think they just get the idea in their heads that it doesnt matter once they are to a certain point and it is indeed sad to watch.

I wish you the best. Keep the wife close. I'm sure you need each other more than ever.

I appreciate your thoughts and understanding, thank you.

Tat2 · September 27, 2011, 06:51

Rich,

Sorry but I just saw this. I hope you and yours are doing well.

T

August 31, 2011, 19:46	#1
4x401 Please Lord true my aim.. Silver Contributor FALaholic #: 31978 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Waiting for the other shoe to drop.. Posts: 3,661	Crap Well, my MIL has finally passed after decades of abusing her body. Smoking, poor diatary choices, and just an angry disposition toward life took their toll. I`m sad for my wife because she has spent the last 4 years caring for her. It has been exteemely hard for her to watch the slow spiral to death. Depression is a killer. Couple that with a 4 pack a day cig habbit and Diabetis, its a wonder she made it to 75. My wife is wreck. A funeral is a hell of a way to start a holiday weekend. __________________ It's almost party time friends....Lock & load....

August 31, 2011, 20:39	#2
Tuscan Raider Registered FALaholic #: 19668 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 2,938	Bummer. Give the wife a 4x401 hug from me. __________________ "An eye for an eye makes us all blind." Ghandi "We, here in America, hold in our hands the hopes of the world, the fate of the coming years; and shame and disgrace will be ours if in our eyes the light of high resolve is dimmed, if we trail in the dust the golden hopes of men." Theodore Roosevelt Address at Carnegie Hall March 30, 1912

September 01, 2011, 11:04	#4
snowhawk jockey Registered FALaholic #: 14239 Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: central oregon Posts: 1,198	Sad to hear the loss of family. My condolences to your wife and my best wishes for you in your emotional support of her. The feeling of relief will soon overtake the feeling of loss as your wife recognizes that her mother is now free of the pain and suffering that ruled the last years of her existence. The holiday does get changed, when it is accompanied by a funeral. __________________ When the moment of truth arrives, KNOW that YOU are already DEAD! Then ACT, that you may save the lives of those around you. If you are lucky, or well prepared, you too, may survive to tell about it.

September 01, 2011, 13:02	#5
brunop Refresh Key Masher Platinum Contributor FALaholic #: 17136 Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: oregon Posts: 6,452	Sorry about your wife's mother - it is a difficult thing no matter how 'ready' she is for the event. God bless you and yours - you are in my prayers. __________________ "I love you, Pluskat..." - brunop "Rebellion to tyrants is obedience to God." - Thomas Jefferson "The constitutions of most of our states [and of the United States] assert that all power is inherent in the people; that they may exercise it by themselves; that it is their right and duty to be at all times armed; that they are entitled to freedom of person, freedom of religion, freedom of property and freedom of the press." - Thomas Jefferson

September 09, 2011, 13:41	#6
ALL FAL Registered Contributor FALaholic #: 24447 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,158	I pray that life will get so much better for you and the wife, as there is a bright side to all the recent grief, time will help heal, it always does. __________________ The Future is ALWAYS Open!! An ARMED society is a POLITE society.

August 31, 2011, 22:43	#3
PSL54Junkie Registered FALaholic #: 51313 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Dallas Posts: 101	Sorry to hear about the MIL hope things get better. Praying for peace for you and the family.

September 10, 2011, 16:54	#7
tdb59 Curio & Relic Bronze Contributor FALaholic #: 63177 Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: I am here Posts: 2,253	4x-- I got no words, just lots of prayers. Terry __________________ "I've SEEN the future. Do you know what it is? It's a 47-year-old virgin sitting around in his beige pajamas, drinking a banana-broccoli shake, singing "I'm an Oscar Meyer Wiener".

September 11, 2011, 13:58	#8
4x401 Please Lord true my aim.. Silver Contributor FALaholic #: 31978 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Waiting for the other shoe to drop.. Posts: 3,661	I appreciate the thoughts and prayers guys, thankyou. Things are slowly returning to normal. The most prominent issue in my mind is I need to spend more time with my own mom. This event really brought home to me that she and I are both aging fast. Time is getting short, for all of us. __________________ It's almost party time friends....Lock & load....

September 11, 2011, 21:28	#9
gaijinsamurai Registered FALaholic #: 24362 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 690	I wish your family the best, Rich. I can relate to the subject, as I see my mom about once per year, and she'll turn 70 next year.

September 12, 2011, 06:17	#11
W.E.G. Administrator Silver Contributor FALaholic #: 1211 Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Virginia Posts: 31,052	Sorry for your family's loss and suffering. Seems like more families are actually like what is described than the pablum we were fed through popular imagery. __________________ . . . Ask me about the Mason-Dixon FAL Collectors Association.

September 13, 2011, 00:08	#13
ALL FAL Registered Contributor FALaholic #: 24447 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,158	4X401, Hope things are getting better at home, I know what you mean about spending time with the folks, my Mom was in an head on collision in PDX, in the end of july, broke every bone except her spine, skull and right arm and almost lost her right foot, she may get to go home in another week, she is a registered nurse, so is helping in her healing, what a mess. My Ol Dad blew his Brains out in 97, so I regret not spending more time with him. Best wishes for you and yours, Dave. __________________ The Future is ALWAYS Open!! An ARMED society is a POLITE society.

September 18, 2011, 21:38	#17
jerrymrc Registered FALaholic #: 2331 Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: colorado springs Posts: 4,878	Prayers will go out my friend.

September 27, 2011, 06:51	#21
Tat2 Registered FALaholic #: 52329 Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Oregon Posts: 908	Rich, Sorry but I just saw this. I hope you and yours are doing well. T

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